The idea of going to counseling for Anger Management Therapy can seem daunting for many people. You may think: What should I expect? How long will I need it for? What will the counselor be like? Will Anger Management Therapy help me at all? These questions are natural.
One to one counseling involves sessions of usually 50 minutes to 1 hour where the counselor will ask a lot of questions and get you to answer. This give him a general picture of the situation and can usually be achieved in the first session. Based on what you have said he will explore certain areas of the situation in more detail. You will probably be asked how you felt about certain things that have happened. This process helps both you and the counselor to understand more. Through the process you may recognise feelings you didn’t acknowledge before and this can be very helpful. In later sessions the counselor will use other techniques and ideas to help you, depending on the situation. However there is a lot of power in just the talking and him asking the right questions.
The number of sessions needed depends on the problem. Usually expect the counseling to last for several weeks and up to a year. A counselor commits a slot in their week for you indefinitely and relies on you to come. Therefore he may charge you for sessions you can’t make. They usually allow you to have holidays without charge. Remember to ask the counselor about their charging, holidays and the amount of notice you can give for cancellation.
The personality of counselors can vary a lot. This isn’t surprising because people become counselors from all walks of life, and often do so after pursuing other careers or going through major life experiences. Some counselors may be jovial and friendly,
others may be very serious. I once saw a counselor who was very serious and didn’t say a word to me outside of the session. I found this very odd and it made me nervous, so I stopped seeing him as I didn’t feel it would help me.
It is essential to choose a counselor that you can get on with, trust and open up to. Getting a recommendation from friends or family can help. If you feel after one or two sessions a counselor is not working for you, don’t be afraid to change to another counselor. Yes you will have to explain it all again to someone else, but in the long term it will be worth it.
If you are interested in counseling then we have more information on our Anger Management Counseling page. If anger is affecting your marriage or partnership then our guide on relationship advice will help you.
You may be interested in working in a group for Anger Management Therapy with other people who are having similar experiences.
In which case our page on anger management groups will be just what you need.
If you prefer a more structure approach to the open-ended nature of counseling, then perhaps try an anger management program.
Many people report success with hypnotherapy for anger management, and I think it is a very effective way of dealing with a variety of problems, and is good for anger management. For more information on hypnotherapy click here.