Anger Management For Children is an important topic. Anger is a powerful emotion and it can be quite alarming to see your child in the throes of rage. However, remember that it s completely normal and acceptable for children to feel angry from time to time.
Anger can arise in a child because she feels misunderstood, accused of something she hasn’t done, treated not fairly or insecure. Anger can be a mask to other emotions that are more vulnerable. Angry episodes often show more than just what has just triggered the anger. A similar analogy is that of a volcano which can erupt as difficult feelings of frustration, hurt and annoyance build up over time, building pressure and causing the child to “blow”.
Here are some tips regarding Anger Management For Children:
- The more you can encourage your child to express difficult feelings, the less emotions will build up and overflow into angry explosions. To be able to express emotion, children first need to be aware of their feelings. You can improve your child’s emotional literacy by beginning to increase the amount you talk about anger and other feelings. As frequently as possible try to refer to your own and other people s feelings and guess at, reflect back & question your child s feelings.
- Children are like barometers for the emotional climate around them: if you re stressed, they will be too, if you re relaxed, so will they be. So schedule in relaxing time for yourself on a regular basis. If it s difficult to get time alone, club together with other parents and set up a babysitting rota. If you get to recuperate once in a while, it will be much easier for you to respond calmly to your child s meltdowns. Calm responses will help contain your child s anger whilst angry ones will make your child more enraged.
- Dismissing difficult feelings (e.g. hey it s not a big deal, calm down ) can be counterproductive; your child will be left simmering about both the original source of frustration as well as not being understood. This is not true Anger Management For Children.
- Your child needs to learn that although anger is OK, aggressive behavior is not. Get down to your child s level and, using a calm, low but firm tone which indicates displeasure, clearly tell him what he has done wrong. Try not to shout as this suggests you have lost control. E.g. Katie, it is not ok to hit your brother – If your child stops behaving aggressively, give her lots of praise. If, however, she continues her inappropriate behaviour after you ve given a warning, impose a clear consequence, such as the naughty step or withdrawing privileges.
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